#76: Spiritual Signs: What Happens When You Stop Forcing and Start Receiving [Summer of the Self Series]

Aug 11

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Hello and welcome to Find Yourself, Change Your Life. I’m your host, Mary Clavieres. This podcast is here to support you in rediscovering yourself and becoming the leader of your life, however you want that to look.

We are continuing the Summer of the Self series, which is quickly coming to an end. We’ve covered a lot of ground so far… the stories you tell yourself, the roles you play, the tricks your mind plays, trusting your body, using your emotions as messengers, and even energy management. All part of supporting you with rediscovering a part of yourself and reconnecting to yourself in some way.

This is what I feel the most passionate about… to help people understand how to get out of your mind, back into your body, reconnect with your soul and your purpose and direction in a way that feels aligned for you. Because really, what else are we doing here in this life? That’s like the ultimate, right?

Today’s Episode Is a Little More Fun

Today’s episode, continuing the Summer of the Self, this one is a little more fun in a way. I will say it’s a fun topic for me, to be honest.

Because we’re talking about what happens when you work on all those different things. As you put in the work, as you bring more self-awareness and paying attention to your energy and all these different things into your life, well, what happens?

You definitely can connect more to your purpose and direction and really reevaluate and choose different paths. But another part of that that I think is so fun is what happens as you start to see spiritual signs in different ways, and as you start to use your intuitive guidance (whatever you want to call it is completely fine).

For me, this is a process of really working with energy in a deeper way. Last week we talked about energy management and just kind of paying attention to how your energy works. This is a next layer of that, taking a look at what’s happening around you, what’s happening with the different people in your life or the different opportunities that you’re getting. And how are you navigating those? And are you paying attention to them so that you can learn from the different situations?

The Word That Keeps Coming to Mind: Spaciousness

All of this is happening as you bring more spaciousness into your life… as you bring more spaciousness to observe what’s happening in your life.

As you stop pushing and forcing, you can step back, you can take your time and not be rushing perhaps. And as you slow down into that, you’re able to see things differently. That’s how it has happened for me over the years, in different ways of course.

The word that keeps coming to mind for me to share with you in this episode is spaciousness. Because as you have more of that, you’re able to listen more deeply and receive that intuitive guidance and watch those spiritual signs and say, oh, isn’t this cool? Okay, this is fun, let’s keep going.

The South of France Story

I do want to give you an example today of just one story of what this might look like when you start to pay attention to more of this. Because then you’re really starting to work not just with what’s in front of you. You’re not only working from pushing your way to things… you’re actually starting to work in a way where you receive information and then you work with that information. You kind of guide yourself and it guides you and you co-create with the universe to bring more of the things that you want into your life.

Earlier this year, I was asked to support an event in the South of France. And we had already had some plans for the summer with my family… we had friends coming to visit, we were doing a couple of different things. Unfortunately, I had to say no. I’m not able to support with this event because I have these other things, so I can’t make the dates.

Within a couple of weeks of that happening, the friends that we had planned a family vacation with had to reschedule. We do a trip every summer. They’ve never had to reschedule before.

My friend called me and said, Mary, I’m so sorry. I can’t believe this. Something changed with the kids’ calendar for school and camp. Can we do a different week? I said, okay, no problem. We had started to have things booked, but nothing that couldn’t be switched.

And then a couple of days later, my husband had a work thing that also moved.

And I was looking at the calendar and I was like, wait a minute. I can maybe go to this event now. Really interesting, you know? And it was things that had never happened before. So I was just kind of watching and paying attention as it was unfolding and as my calendar was literally changing without me even really doing anything.

And Then My Sister Called

The other thing is — this event is in the South of France and it’s about six hours away from my house. I don’t really want to have to drive all that way myself both ways. I just thought it would be really nice, if I’m going to do this, I would really love to not have to drive the whole way myself.

I’m not kidding. Within a couple of days, one of my sisters messaged me and said, oh, I’m going to be in Europe and I was thinking to maybe stop by in France and then I could fly with you guys to the US. So I explained to her, well, I have this thing in the South of France. And she said, oh well, maybe I could come with you and you can drop me off at this other place — she had other plans happening — and then you could just pick me up on the way back and I’ll go with you the rest of the way.

I was like, wait a minute, what is happening?

I was just saying that for me to do this whole event in the South of France, I really wanted someone to be able to come with me. And now my sister is basically asking me and willing to drive with me almost the whole way and almost the whole way back.

It still seems so wild for me. But I think it also had to be that obvious for me to get it, right?

Watching the Design of Energy Movement

I was watching all of these things happening. The invitation, when I originally got it, it felt very interesting to me. It’s something that I wanted to do, but scheduling-wise it just wasn’t working out. Then I’m starting to watch and starting to see — okay, well, this is getting moved and that’s getting changed. And well, I’d still like to drive with someone. Okay, then here’s your sister asking to come along.

There were just so many things, so many big things outside of my control that were shifting and moving.

What one of my friends and mentors calls it is the design of energy movement — where you’re really watching everything that’s happening around you and seeing how different things click into place together.

Signs Look Different for Everyone

This example that I’m giving you is not a case of, oh, I had a dream with a message in it and then I woke up and XYZ happened the next day. I do get those as well. And everyone can get those.

For everyone, these signs and communications can happen in different ways. It depends what you’re most connected to and what pops up for you the most. So it just looks different for different people. But you can of course have these things happen for you too in your own ways.

This one is maybe a little more layered — but it’s to say that with the spaciousness to observe, I was able to see these different pieces falling into place without me even forcing anything.

I didn’t say, oh well, I really want to go and do that event, so I’m going to change our family vacation and do this and do that. No. Things were set up. Okay, if I’m meant to go to this event, things will move around so that I can go to this event. And that’s exactly what happened.

It Gets Bigger the More You Pay Attention

It’s really important to be open to those spiritual signs and be open to following the intuitive guidance as you do it. It’s like any other muscle… as you do it, more of it will happen. As you witness and observe different signs, you’ll start to see more signs.

The more in tune you are with yourself, the more these things will be able to start to happen for you. And that is all part of you being able to follow your purpose and direction, because it’s like you’re going your way and you’re also being supported in going your way. You’re following these paths and you’re embracing what feels correct for you, and other doors will open at that same time and give you different experiences.

And it’s so beautiful, and it’s so, so fun.

Your Reflection Prompt for This Week

How are you creating spaciousness in your life to be able to observe these spiritual signs and to be able to follow your intuitive guidance?

Whatever it looks like for you… remember to always keep it aligned for you. Each one of us works differently, shows up differently, experiences things differently. Make sure that it’s aligned for you.

I’m not saying it’s always an easy path, for sure. We definitely still have lessons to learn, and those can be intense. But when you’re working in the aligned space, it can be really fun and interesting.

So take a look and see:

Do you have spaciousness?

Are you working towards that spaciousness?

Has it already happened for you?

Do you have examples where you’ve been able to witness and see things working out for you in certain ways?

Thank you so much for being here. I appreciate you and your support and for listening to this podcast. I will talk to you next week.

Frequently Asked Questions

Q: What are spiritual signs? A: Spiritual signs are pieces of information or synchronicities that show up in your life (not always dramatic… they can be very subtle) that seem to point you in a certain direction or confirm something you’ve been feeling. They can look very different for different people.

Q: How do you start noticing spiritual signs? A: The key, as Mary describes in this episode, is spaciousness. When you’re constantly pushing, forcing, and rushing, you don’t have enough room to observe what’s happening around you. As you slow down and bring more spaciousness into your life (through the inner work covered throughout this series) you start to notice what was always there.

Q: What is the “design of energy movement”? A: A phrase Mary’s friend and mentor uses to describe the experience of watching everything happening around you and seeing how different things click into place together. It’s the sense of observing circumstances shifting and moving without you forcing them and recognizing a pattern or direction in that movement.

Q: Does everyone experience spiritual signs the same way? A: No. As Mary clearly states in this episode, signs and communications can happen in different ways for different people. It depends what you’re most connected to and what pops up for you the most. For Mary, travel is one of the main ways she receives information. For others it’s dreams, nature, numbers, music, or conversations. There’s no one right way.

Q: Do you have to believe in something specific to experience this? A: No. Mary says in this episode “whatever you want to call it is completely fine.” You don’t need a specific belief system. The invitation is simply to be open and to pay attention.

Q: What does “co-creating with the universe” mean? A: It means you’re not just pushing your way toward things on your own. You’re working with the information you receive (signs, intuition, circumstances) and allowing that to guide you alongside your own intention. You set a direction and then stay open to how it unfolds, rather than forcing a specific path.

Q: Is this connected to Human Design? A: Yes, in a broader sense. Human Design is one of the tools Mary uses to understand how your energy works and how you’re designed to move through the world. The spaciousness and receptivity she talks about in this episode align with the projector strategy of waiting for recognition and invitation and more broadly with trusting your design rather than forcing outcomes.

Q: What is the Summer of the Self series? A: It’s a summer podcast series from Find Yourself, Change Your Life with short weekly episodes and a reflection prompt each week. This is Episode 8, one of the final episodes in the series. Previous episodes covered awareness, conditioning, the roles we play, the not good enough voice, trusting your body, emotions as messengers, and energy management.

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